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What to Expect from Coaching

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Coaching is an intentional beneficial relationship between two or more people focused on helping the one coached successfully obtain their goals.

Good coaching can help you:

  • reach your potential in Christ
  • discover what you truly want in life
  • overcome obstacles to success
  • connect short-term strategies to long-term plans

A Coach is a  “trusted role model, adviser, wise person, friend, Mensch, steward, or guide — a person who works with emerging human and organizational forces to tap new energy and purpose, to shape new visions and plans, and to generate desired results.”  Someone who “facilitates experiential learning that results in future-oriented abilities” (F. Hudson, The Handbook of Coaching).

An Executive Coach offers specific help by:

  • Maintaining Confidential Partnerships
  • Utilizing a Structured Process
  • Goal Directed for Optimum  Performance

Executive Coaching is NOT Psychological therapy! Coaching is designed for emotionally and psychologically healthy individuals. Coaching focuses on:

  • Performance
  • Achievement
  • Fulfillment

So, what can you expect from our coaching relationship? Here are a few appropriate expectations:

Expect your coach to ask questions. . . sometimes hard questions, questions you may have been avoiding for a long time. The coach is to be curious, to help you discover more about yourself and in general, create the foundation for better self-understanding.

Expect your coach to focus on your potential, what you can do, and the formation of your best self. A coach will help you go over, under, or even plow through obstacles, help to equip you to find your own way and avoid the fear, doubt, or circumstances that hold you back.

Expect your coach to help you stand firmly on your own set of values and Christian faith, to know who you are in Christ, and to become more confident in your relationship with God as His beloved child.

Expect your coach to challenge you. Sometimes the most loving thing anyone can do for us is to tell us the truth. Though uncomfortable and sometimes difficult to hear, we all need to be challenged in order to grow. Einstein said once: “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.” A professional coach will encourage you break the cycle of “same-ness” and help you make way for more satisfying results.

Expect your coach to be your encourager. Your professional coach will serve like Aaron and Hur who helped keep Moses’ hands held high and allowed the Israelites to prevail (Exodus 17:12). A good coach helps you re-think situations and helps reveal new possibilities, ideas, and successful strategies.

What the coach will not do:
Don’t expect your coach to be your new boss or tell you how to live your life. Coaching is about empowering the person, not dictating someone’s life. The last thing most of us would ever want is someone telling us what to do!

Don’t expect your coach to be triangulated. The coaching relationship is between the coach and the one coached. The coach is NOT a middle-manager between the Board/Council or Principal or Pastor or anyone else. The relationship is between the coach and the one being coached. Coaching is NOT a disciplinary activity, it is an encouraging, positive and engaging relationship that helps the one being coached to reach their own fullest potential.

Don’t expect your coach to do YOUR work. Successful coaching is empowering and equips people to change their own future. It might seem strange, but the one being coached pays me to get them to work. That’s the only way coaching will be helpful. Maximize your own success by suggesting areas of strength AND weakness; suggest activities that need to be measured and where it would help to be held accountable. Accountability is key to a successful coaching relationship.

Welcome from Coach Phil

Posted in Introduction to Coaching

Welcome to!

My name is Phil Pledger and I have been a professional Church worker for more than 32 years, serving congregations in Texas, Wisconsin and California. I’ve served small ministries as well as large, healthy communities and the not-so-healthy. Through it all, God has blessed me and my family in more ways than I can count (or even know about). I’ve enjoyed every congregation and ministry I’ve served, but there have also been some exceedingly tough times as well.

As is often the case, I think I learned more about ministry and life through the tough times. As President of one of the ministries I served, I had the privilege of meeting hundreds of professional Church workers throughout the world. Meeting all these great people, it became increasingly apparent that professional Church workers may have the best jobs in the world, but are also some of most professionally isolated people in any profession. There is an unfortunate attitude among many people that since we “work for God,” everything must always be “OK.”

So, what happens when things are NOT OK? Who can the professional Church worker safely talk to? What happens when the professional Church worker is “stuck” in their profession, in their spiritual walk, in their marriage or other relationship? Sometimes we need a thought partner, someone to help us acquire a fresh perspective, or help getting “un-stuck.” Perhaps you are trying to write a book, but “life” gets in the way. Or, your spouse points out (again) that you don’t have a healthy work/life balance. . . and your stress level is through the roof! Some feel as though they are being taken advantage of, and still others are on the verge of burn-out.

These are some of the reasons I became an Executive Coach, to help the professional Church worker regain their joy, effectiveness, and confidence. “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13).

As you peruse consider emailing me so we can set up a phone call and talk. Together we can discuss how a Professional Executive Coach might help.

May God fill you with Joy and Peace, in Christ!

Coach Phil